I believe conversing with the gf is an error.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july
We agree with you… i dunno. Its difficult. I simply know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be mad at him. I have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to make an effort to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am
As well as, exactly just what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I’m able to realise why you’d feel that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can just only get a grip on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being inconvenient. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be friends after all. It might you need to be an additional backlink to the man when it comes to LW, that is wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this specific band of dudes whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy in it after a few weeks and I’d get actually amazed, cos they seemed therefore normal in my experience? Then it had been realised by me personally ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. Plus the girls had been all simply normal those who, you understand, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, when that occurs enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU WILL BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this new GF. She deserves to possess a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW because she is being told by the guy a couple of crap about her. Its simply all wrong. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad on her too, but she has to watch out for by herself. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but that is why many people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. I keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me”
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me and my boyfriend would separation almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and obtain straight back together.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain straight right straight back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said right right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word that is“crazy operate the other means. I understand therefore lots of men who utilize that word to hide with regards to their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone someone crazy into the place that is first. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you should be happy to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy also?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! As soon as the” that is“crazy out, Im operating one other method. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- once you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, buddy.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
The truth is, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about this too, yet somehow she will continue to respond to this dudes calls and even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We totally agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend as well as if you nevertheless like their attention, the truth that you understand he has got a gf is causing you to a negative man in this too.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, if you actually do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I really like you, eljay) said, some body needs to function as the adult in this case. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july
Amen bestie – we trust you about talking towards the gf. That knows exactly exactly exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting so frequently, but whilst the relationship is none of these company, the fact the LW while the brand new gf have actually met now i believe permits the LW some freedom. If I experienced held it’s place in a scenario where a buddy brought somebody around that I experienced heard of and wished to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it also went horribly, i may touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly. She does not fundamentally need certainly to say, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I became underneath the impression you had been fine with your being friends, but i simply recognized I’m perhaps perhaps perhaps not fine with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I’dn’t communicate with the gf about that. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to inform you which you respect her relationship? I would personally think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex lover you don’t desire to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Genuinely they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if I had been the latest gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a bar i might additionally demand that individuals leave straight away. It is so uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay if your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am